"problem solving that meets some key interests of all involved"
One of the things that's pretty characteristic of my household would be the general din of bickering between various members of my family. I'll do them the honor of not specifically mentioning their names, even though by process of elimination some things are just blatantly obvious. Their disagreements are generally over very minor things, though this is definitely not always true. However, generally speaking it's just a snide comment and an overreaction to it is enough to escalate to a full out world war between the two parties. The idea of discontinuing these sort of rude and obvious comments that are going to anger the other party and cause them to lash out because of their general lack of keeping their cool never seems to register in either mind negatively. There is the general lack of learning from past mistakes and adapting according to their findings.
I suppose the main difficulty would be with their personalities, which unfortunately, because they tend to be related by blood, are quite similar. In fact, they both have the exact length of a fuse when it comes to exploding, which is pretty much as short as they come. Their obstinate personalities causing a friction between the two persons that could easily be eliminated if both parties simply came to an agreement to keep their cool when interacting. Unfortunately, they seem to lack a common sense know-how when it comes to problem solving. They generally butt heads over something completely minor and irrelevant, such as the state of one's hair, a comment that while fairly minor, can be misconstrued to a terrible extent when you bring in every past grievance into every new conflict, demonstrating an inability of just being able to bury the hatchet is nonexistent. The disheartening part is that when they're not fighting, they get along really well but their matching set of short fuse personalities, which at times are a good thing since they have several of the same interests, causes them to have this friction.
If these two individuals could just learn to come to some sort of consensus and agreement over their attitudes and learn to deal with each other, they could be extremely close. If they simply applied the rules of compromise, discussion, problem-solving and just plain old getting along, they would be two peas in a pod, just as they should be. However, until they learn to, which they may never, history is full of cases of individuals who had too close of personalities for their own good, Benjamin Franklin and his son William would be an excellent example, which is also an unfortunate example because it pretty much breaks down my agreement of confidentiality, but until they do, their relationship will never be able to grow and prosper like it should. But, I hope someday it will.
One of the things that's pretty characteristic of my household would be the general din of bickering between various members of my family. I'll do them the honor of not specifically mentioning their names, even though by process of elimination some things are just blatantly obvious. Their disagreements are generally over very minor things, though this is definitely not always true. However, generally speaking it's just a snide comment and an overreaction to it is enough to escalate to a full out world war between the two parties. The idea of discontinuing these sort of rude and obvious comments that are going to anger the other party and cause them to lash out because of their general lack of keeping their cool never seems to register in either mind negatively. There is the general lack of learning from past mistakes and adapting according to their findings.
I suppose the main difficulty would be with their personalities, which unfortunately, because they tend to be related by blood, are quite similar. In fact, they both have the exact length of a fuse when it comes to exploding, which is pretty much as short as they come. Their obstinate personalities causing a friction between the two persons that could easily be eliminated if both parties simply came to an agreement to keep their cool when interacting. Unfortunately, they seem to lack a common sense know-how when it comes to problem solving. They generally butt heads over something completely minor and irrelevant, such as the state of one's hair, a comment that while fairly minor, can be misconstrued to a terrible extent when you bring in every past grievance into every new conflict, demonstrating an inability of just being able to bury the hatchet is nonexistent. The disheartening part is that when they're not fighting, they get along really well but their matching set of short fuse personalities, which at times are a good thing since they have several of the same interests, causes them to have this friction.
If these two individuals could just learn to come to some sort of consensus and agreement over their attitudes and learn to deal with each other, they could be extremely close. If they simply applied the rules of compromise, discussion, problem-solving and just plain old getting along, they would be two peas in a pod, just as they should be. However, until they learn to, which they may never, history is full of cases of individuals who had too close of personalities for their own good, Benjamin Franklin and his son William would be an excellent example, which is also an unfortunate example because it pretty much breaks down my agreement of confidentiality, but until they do, their relationship will never be able to grow and prosper like it should. But, I hope someday it will.
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